{"id":1216,"date":"2015-02-25T22:25:06","date_gmt":"2015-02-25T22:25:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/courses.candelalearning.com\/publicspeaking1xmaster\/?post_type=chapter&p=1216"},"modified":"2016-08-15T23:08:44","modified_gmt":"2016-08-15T23:08:44","slug":"chapter-4-providing-feedback-to-speakers","status":"publish","type":"chapter","link":"https:\/\/courses.lumenlearning.com\/clinton-publicspeakingprinciples\/chapter\/chapter-4-providing-feedback-to-speakers\/","title":{"raw":"Providing Feedback to Speakers","rendered":"Providing Feedback to Speakers"},"content":{"raw":"There are many ways in which a listener can offer feedback to a speaker, sometimes even wordlessly. Keeping an open mind is something you do internally, but you can also demonstrate openness to a speaker through your\u00a0nonverbal communication<\/strong>.\r\n\r\n[caption id=\"attachment_1259\" align=\"alignright\" width=\"377\"]\"People<\/a> \"Visitors Listen to Lecture\"<\/a> by Adam Jones, Ph.D.\u00a0CC-BY-SA<\/a>.[\/caption]\r\n

Nonverbal Feedback<\/strong><\/h2>\r\nBoothman recommends listening with your whole body, not just your ears.[footnote]Boothman, N. (2008). How to make people like you in 90 seconds or less<\/em>. NY: Workman Publishing. [\/footnote] Consider how confident you would feel speaking to a room full of people with their eyes closed, arms and legs crossed, and bodies bent in slouches. These listeners are presenting nonverbal cues that they are uninterested and unimpressed. Meanwhile, a listener sitting up straight, facing you with an intent look on his face is more likely to offer reassurance that your words are being understood.\r\n\r\nEye contact is another nonverbal cue to the speaker that you are paying attention. You don\u2019t want to be bug-eyed and unblinking; the speaker might assume there is a tiger behind her and begin to panic as you seem to be doing. However, attentive eye contact can indicate you are listening, and help you to stay focused too. There are some cultures where maintaining eye contact would cause discomfort, so keep that in mind. Also, you may be someone who listens better with eyes closed to visualize what is being said. This can be difficult for a speaker to recognize, so if this is you consider incorporating one of the following nonverbals while you listen with eyes closed.\r\n\r\nNodding your head affirmatively, making back-channel responses such as \u201cYes,\u201d \u201cUmhum,\u201d or \u201cOK\u201d can help the speaker gauge your interest. Even the speed of your head nod can signal your level of patience or understanding.[footnote]Pease, A., & Pease, B. (2006). The definitive book of body language.<\/em> New York: Bantam Books. [\/footnote] Leaning in as a listener is far more encouraging than slumping in your seat. Miller suggests the \u201clistener\u2019s lean<\/strong>\u201d demonstrates \u201cultimate interest. This joyous feedback is reflexive. It physically endorses our communique\u0301.\u201d[footnote]Miller, C. (1994). The empowered communicator: Keys to unlocking an audience.<\/em> Nashville: Broadman & Holman Publishers. [\/footnote] Nevertheless, sending too many nonverbal responses to the speaker can go wrong too. After all, a conference room full of people shifting in their seats and nodding their heads may translate as a restless audience that the speaker needs to recapture.\r\n\r\nThe only way to entertain some folks is to listen to them. ~ Kin Hubbard<\/em>\r\n

Verbal Feedback<\/strong><\/h2>\r\nWhile speakers sometimes want all questions held until the end of a presentation, asking questions when the opportunity presents itself can help you as a listener. For one, you have to listen in order to be able to ask a question. Your goal should be to ask open-ended questions (\u201cWhat do you think about\u2026.?\u201d rather than \u201cWe should do \u2026., right?\u201d). You can use questions to confirm your understanding of the speaker\u2019s message. If you\u2019re not entirely sure of a significant point, you might ask a clarifying question. These are questions such as \u201cWhat did you mean?\u201d \u201cCan you be more specific?\u201d or \u201cWhat is a concrete example of your point?\u201d These can help your comprehension, while also offering the speaker feedback. When asking questions, approach the speaker in a positive, non-threatening way. A good listener doesn\u2019t seek to put the speaker on the defensive. You want to demonstrate your objectivity and willingness to listen to the speaker\u2019s response.\r\n
\r\n\r\n[caption id=\"attachment_1260\" align=\"aligncenter\" width=\"500\"]\"Two<\/a> \"Conversation in the Park\"<\/a> by sswj. CC-BY-NC-ND<\/a>.[\/caption]\r\n\r\n<\/div>\r\nFinally, paraphrasing what has been said in your interactions with the speaker can be another useful tool for a good listener. Imagine the difference if, before you respond to an upset colleague, you take a moment to say, \u201cI understand you are disappointed we didn\u2019t consult you before moving forward with the product release\u2026\u201d before you say, \u201cwe didn\u2019t have time to get everyone\u2019s input.\u201d Reflecting back the speaker\u2019s point of view before you respond allows the speaker to know you were listening and helps foster trust that everyone\u2019s voice is being heard.","rendered":"

There are many ways in which a listener can offer feedback to a speaker, sometimes even wordlessly. Keeping an open mind is something you do internally, but you can also demonstrate openness to a speaker through your\u00a0nonverbal communication<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

\"People<\/a><\/p>\n

“Visitors Listen to Lecture”<\/a> by Adam Jones, Ph.D.\u00a0CC-BY-SA<\/a>.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

Nonverbal Feedback<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Boothman recommends listening with your whole body, not just your ears.[1]<\/sup><\/a> Consider how confident you would feel speaking to a room full of people with their eyes closed, arms and legs crossed, and bodies bent in slouches. These listeners are presenting nonverbal cues that they are uninterested and unimpressed. Meanwhile, a listener sitting up straight, facing you with an intent look on his face is more likely to offer reassurance that your words are being understood.<\/p>\n

Eye contact is another nonverbal cue to the speaker that you are paying attention. You don\u2019t want to be bug-eyed and unblinking; the speaker might assume there is a tiger behind her and begin to panic as you seem to be doing. However, attentive eye contact can indicate you are listening, and help you to stay focused too. There are some cultures where maintaining eye contact would cause discomfort, so keep that in mind. Also, you may be someone who listens better with eyes closed to visualize what is being said. This can be difficult for a speaker to recognize, so if this is you consider incorporating one of the following nonverbals while you listen with eyes closed.<\/p>\n

Nodding your head affirmatively, making back-channel responses such as \u201cYes,\u201d \u201cUmhum,\u201d or \u201cOK\u201d can help the speaker gauge your interest. Even the speed of your head nod can signal your level of patience or understanding.[2]<\/sup><\/a> Leaning in as a listener is far more encouraging than slumping in your seat. Miller suggests the \u201clistener\u2019s lean<\/strong>\u201d demonstrates \u201cultimate interest. This joyous feedback is reflexive. It physically endorses our communique\u0301.\u201d[3]<\/sup><\/a> Nevertheless, sending too many nonverbal responses to the speaker can go wrong too. After all, a conference room full of people shifting in their seats and nodding their heads may translate as a restless audience that the speaker needs to recapture.<\/p>\n

The only way to entertain some folks is to listen to them. ~ Kin Hubbard<\/em><\/p>\n

Verbal Feedback<\/strong><\/h2>\n

While speakers sometimes want all questions held until the end of a presentation, asking questions when the opportunity presents itself can help you as a listener. For one, you have to listen in order to be able to ask a question. Your goal should be to ask open-ended questions (\u201cWhat do you think about\u2026.?\u201d rather than \u201cWe should do \u2026., right?\u201d). You can use questions to confirm your understanding of the speaker\u2019s message. If you\u2019re not entirely sure of a significant point, you might ask a clarifying question. These are questions such as \u201cWhat did you mean?\u201d \u201cCan you be more specific?\u201d or \u201cWhat is a concrete example of your point?\u201d These can help your comprehension, while also offering the speaker feedback. When asking questions, approach the speaker in a positive, non-threatening way. A good listener doesn\u2019t seek to put the speaker on the defensive. You want to demonstrate your objectivity and willingness to listen to the speaker\u2019s response.<\/p>\n

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“Conversation in the Park”<\/a> by sswj. CC-BY-NC-ND<\/a>.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

Finally, paraphrasing what has been said in your interactions with the speaker can be another useful tool for a good listener. Imagine the difference if, before you respond to an upset colleague, you take a moment to say, \u201cI understand you are disappointed we didn\u2019t consult you before moving forward with the product release\u2026\u201d before you say, \u201cwe didn\u2019t have time to get everyone\u2019s input.\u201d Reflecting back the speaker\u2019s point of view before you respond allows the speaker to know you were listening and helps foster trust that everyone\u2019s voice is being heard.<\/p>\n\n\t\t\t

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